Ann-Marie - Module 5

Midway review
Half-way through already! Where does the time go? I’m certainly learning a thing or about this worry business. I still worry a fair bit, but now at least I have moments of calm, and I still try to have moments of tuning into what’s happening in the present moment. I notice when I do that, I enjoy what I’m doing more.
As for my goals, they’re coming along. And yes, they are still relevant.
1) Not have my worry control me
2) Letting my kids play without being a helicopter mom
3) Sleep better, meaning I’m not getting up at 3am and then worrying for the next hour about the upcoming day, and then about how tired I’ll be tomorrow because I’m not sleeping enough, which then just makes it harder for me to go to sleep.
Situation | Emotion | Thoughts | Cognitive Trap | Evidence to support thought | Evidence against thought | Alternative or balanced thought | Mood |
While I had my back turned for literally a second while I was tending to Amanda, Jacob fell and was crying. | Happy Sad 90 Angry Scared 90 Anxious Nervous Ashamed 90 Disappointed Guilty 100 Other Other |
What happened? Does he have a head injury? We’re going to have to go to the hospital. ,br>How will I explain this to Paul? I’m a terrible mother for allowing this happen. This is what happens when I’m not always right there. |
Catastrophizing X Jumping to Conclusions All or none thinking Emotional Reasoning Labeling Dismissing or discounting the positive Personalization Hindsight Bias Magnification / minimization |
If I had been right there, it wouldn’t have happened. | Even if I had been right there, kids do fall. I went over to him immediately to see if he was okHe only cried for a few seconds and then he wanted to go on the slide, so it couldn’t have been that bad. A terrible mother wouldn’t love their kids as much as I do. People tell me I’m a wonderful mother – they can’t all be lying. |
It’s likely not a reflection of my parenting if my kids fall once in a while. I guess it’s a part of them growing up. | Happy Sad 30 Angry Scared 10 Anxious Nervous Ashamed 15 Disappointed Guilty 10 Other Other |
Read Module 5 reports from the other learners.
Jenny | Mark | Steven |