Mark - Module 11

So, I pulled out my goals and I was surprised by how far I’d come in only a couple of months.

1) Start going out with friends again – go to some ballgames like I used to (once a month)

Progress – I’ve definitely been doing a lot more of this, almost at pre-break-up levels or a bit more even

2) Call into work sick less

Progress –I’ve been really successful here, only called in sick once and I had the flu

3) Start dating again

Progress – I’m getting there on that one…just haven’t found anyone I want to ask out yet. I’m also getting more comfortable with the idea of dating. Just a matter of timing, now. One thing that kinda surprised me is that I’m also getting more comfortable not being in a relationship at the moment. There are some perks to it, like doing what you want, when you want, without having to worry about checking with someone else’s schedule. I’m more open to it than I was a while ago.

As for next steps, I’m taking a look at my life and I’m considering if I want to keep staying in this apartment or if I want to try living somewhere else.

Goals I want to accomplish

  1. Run a 10km race in the fall
  2. Go on a road trip to New York City see the Jays play the Yankees

Steps I need to take to achieve goal

  1. Join a running group (perhaps I’ll meet someone while I’m training ☺ ); sign up for a race
  2. See if any of my friends want to join me; find out when they will be playing there; get tickets; book time off work

Date I’d like to achieve my goal by:
Well, both of them depend on external events (day of race and day of game)

My relapse warning signs:

  1. Calling in sick
  2. Not eating
  3. Not working out

What I would do if I noticed any of my warning signs:

  1. Check in with my thoughts – are they all negative? Am I falling into some cognitive traps?
  2. Again, check in with my thoughts
  3. Call a friend and see if we can go for a run or to the gym


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Jenny Ann-Marie Steven